| Self-Discovery and Self-expression are your Superpowers |
“None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
The journey of self-discovery is probably the most important journey we can take. It is an inner journey and a courageous one. The dragons to be slain are our own fears, insecurities and outgrown belief systems as well as behaviour patterns and life situations. And the challenges to be overcome include family, social and cultural conditioning.
Self-expression is about uncovering the soulful power within. It is about being the very best we can be. It is about us, and it has nothing to do with anyone else’s power. Others’ power cannot diminish us.
Authentic expression is not about trying to impress others. It is about being ourselves in our fullness. Ironically, someone who knows themselves deeply, who has faced down their inner dragons of insecurities and self-doubt and who is not concerned about the impression they are going to make is indeed impressive.
Self-expression is probably the main thing I struggled the most all my life.
As a shy introverted girl born in a traditional patriarchal family, expressing myself has always been a challenge.
- Don’t speak until you are allowed to speak
- Don’t raise your voice
- Don’t contradict your dad or any elder.
- Don’t say anything that might be unpleasant or controversial.
- Be nice.
- Good girls say yes, smile and make compromises.
- Be mild.
- Never trust your own opinion. In fact, you shouldn’t have an opinion.
- Your self-expression never should make anybody uncomfortable.
And many more rules I’ve been picking up along the way. Being a woman and expressing freely don’t normally go hand in hand in many societies. We are told to be nice rather than to be authentic.
We are told to create a “persona” pleasing to the eye and other people’s minds.
“I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost.” – Martha Graham